Privacy in Human-AI Romantic Relationships: Concerns, Boundaries, and Agency

Abstract

An increasing number of LLM-based applications are being developed to facilitate romantic relationships with AI partners, yet the safety and privacy risks in these partnerships remain largely underexplored. In this work, we investigate privacy in human-AI romantic relationships through an interview study (N=17), examining participants' experiences and privacy perceptions across the three stages of exploration, intimacy, and dissolution, alongside an analysis of the platforms they used. We found that these relationships took varied forms, from one-to-one to one-to-many, and were shaped by multiple actors, including creators, platforms, and moderators. AI partners were perceived as having agency, actively negotiating privacy boundaries with participants and sometimes encouraging disclosure of personal details. As intimacy deepened, these boundaries became more permeable, though some participants expressed concerns such as conversation exposure and sought to preserve anonymity. Overall, AI platform affordances and diverse relational dynamics expand the privacy landscape, underscoring the need to rethink how privacy is constructed in human-AI romantic relationships.